The Biased Shoulder

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"There are those that love you and can't stand to see you in pain. More than anyone, they know you and know how much you deserve happiness in your life. Their caring is genuine...

"...the people who love you don't care about objectivity; they want you to feel better. Although this makes perfect sense, the end result is that the people in whom you are confiding offer potentially life-changing advice without a complete set of facts.

"...because they can't bear to see you in pain, they will steer you to what they think is the quickest escape from the emotional torture. They convince themselves and then you that [you should get rid of the problem, that], 'You don't deserve this. Just get out.'

"Look, we all need people on our side, people who will stand by us, no matter what. But before you are too quick to heed the advice of your personal fans, you must remember this. Their opinions are biased. They can't always see the forest for the trees."

--Michele Weiner Davis, author, therapist


I wish I had the strength to say,
"This matters to me.
I choose pain.
Support me while I bear it.
Please."

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